I've been reading a lot about how society, generally in the guise of family and friends, tells grieving parents to "get over it." I have really not found this to be the case (aren't you guys awesome?). However, I feel a desire to think about something else, to not feel this hazy, half-assed depression hanging … Continue reading Interactive
Writing
One Year Later
I sent this out last year following Jasmine's transplant. Most of you probably read it then. I post it in memory of a great event in Jasmine's life. Jeff asked me today how it is that there could be so many. "I can breathe!" This delivered in an incredulous and breathy little voice... These words … Continue reading One Year Later
Riding the Cyclone
We did it -- we got stuff done today! Something, not a lot, but better than nothing. We went out this afternoon and tried to buy advance Scooby Doo tickets, but we can't get them till tomorrow. We picked up some parts for the washer (Rowan, you may not want these old things, trust me), … Continue reading Riding the Cyclone
Pre-Grieving
Nina, Jeff and I are sick. We brought back something from Jamaica that wasn't in our suitcases, evidently. Nina's sick enough that we took her to the doctor, who said that whatever the viral part of this is, she has some kind of bacterial ear infection too, and he put her on amoxicillin. We had … Continue reading Pre-Grieving
Thoughts on the Before and After Worlds
On February 14, 2004 at 7 PM, my family's world divided into Before and After. There are many events in life that make this division -- birth, marriage, and yes, death. Even each moment of the day carries a breath of Before and After, but it's smaller -- before and after. Before and After worlds … Continue reading Thoughts on the Before and After Worlds
Welcome to Jamaica
Many emails about ignoring Jeff's aunt -- thanks. I knew that was the right answer, I just needed to hear it. Marcy, your idea about sending her a note and mentioning how nice it was to have the last few months with Jasmine is great. I couldn't post while in Jamaica and I just didn't … Continue reading Welcome to Jamaica
Sigh
We came home to an ugly letter from Jeff's aunt. I'm not sure what, if anything, to do about it. He had started to regrow a relationship with her last year in the wake of his grandmother's death, but they had a falling out before Jasmine's death related to money he inherited from his grandmother … Continue reading Sigh
On Our Way
We're on our way to Chicago today... leaving in a few hours. We pick up my parents at the airport at 3:30 and then check into our hotel. We have to be at O'Hare at 4 AM tomorrow morning. Ugh. That is so freaking early! I THINK I read in the travel catalog that there … Continue reading On Our Way
Happy Birthday, Jeff!
Today is Jeff's 35th birthday. Happy birthday to you, honey. No, you're not 26, and frankly, I'm glad! 😉 If you would like to email Jeff a birthday greeting, his address is javias@verizon.net. Last night he asked what kind of card Jasmine would have gotten him. I think I will go to the store and … Continue reading Happy Birthday, Jeff!
Resolutions for Bereaved Parents
This is from a grieving parents email list I've joined. I like it. Resolutions for Bereaved Parents * I will grieve as much and for as long as I need, determining my own time-table. * I will grieve the way that suits me best, and I will express my feelings the way I choose. * … Continue reading Resolutions for Bereaved Parents
by the sea, by the sea, by the beautiful sea 